The Ghost of Who You Could’ve Been: Overcoming Self-Doubt, Imposter Syndrome & Leveling Up
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Imagine for a second the best version of yourself—the one you secretly hope to become. They’re in shape, confident, present. They move through life with purpose and peace. They’re healthy, successful, full of charisma—not because life was easy, but because they didn’t stop showing up.
Now imagine that version of you standing just a few steps ahead, hand reaching out, waiting for you to close the gap.
But instead of moving toward them, you hesitate. You take the easier route. You skip the workout, scroll instead of study, say "maybe tomorrow" one more time. Slowly, that future self begins to fade. Not with anger—but with heartbreak. They reach out for you, but their hand starts disappearing.
And then comes the silence. The one where you know you’re ghosting your own potential.
On a recent hike with Steph, I shared something I’ve carried for most of my adult life: imposter syndrome. It’s followed me through every chapter—my twenties lost in nightlife, then grinding my way up from a seasonal sales position to becoming a store manager, and now, self-employed and chasing this crazy dream of living out of a camper van with our dogs and camera gear.
Even now, as we're finally connecting the last dots to turn this vision into reality, I sometimes feel like I don’t belong here. Like it’s all going to blow up in my face someday.
But the more I’ve sat with it, the more I’ve realized—it's not that I don’t belong. It’s that my old self is scared. The version of me that was comfortable staying small doesn’t want to be left behind. So he whispers doubts. He tells me I’m not ready. He tries to sabotage the progress because he knows once I level up, there’s no going back.
And that’s the battle.
Every step forward is a fight to let go of who you were in order to become who you're meant to be. It’s not easy. But every day you show up, every rep, every risk, every quiet decision to keep going—it brings you closer to the version of you that’s still waiting, still reaching, still believing in you.
So don’t let them disappear. Grab their hand. And become the ghost that lived.
What would your future self thank you for doing today? Comment below or share this with someone who needs to hear it.
